I think you should at least drop him a line to say hello.
...link to obit upon personal request....
Okay, we got in too late to be at the viewing Friday night, but I was there bright and early for the viewing/funeral Saturday. My cousin gave me a hug that I thought was strangely intense, deep and long, and I saw an interesting expression on his wife's face. Got through the funeral and the internment without more than expected and usual breakdown. I was gratified at the turnout and the heartfelt expressions from so very many.
The after-funeral luncheon catered by the wonderful women in the local branch of the church had a record turn-out. They usually set out 3 tables, but set out 12 for us (they knew he was well loved). We had people standing at the stage and eating from their plates and everything was going well. At the end of the "family" meal, my children on each side of me, I had a tap on my shoulder. Lo, it was someone I had casually (for me, but apparently not "casual" for him) dated in high school. He noticed in the obit that I did not have a husband's name appended to mine. He wanted to "apologize" for the way he treated me in high school.
I thought, 'he came to my dad's funeral to see if I were available? Now here is a guy I can rationally torment for the CDS' amusement.' Then the same cousin came along, and enveloped me in another deep embrace, and said, 'who is this?' and we got into a deep intra-city 'you might have met me in an all-city music ensemble' sort of thing.
I got his email and phone, but did not give him mine.
Several options: Do I ignore having his contact info? He then fades into the woodwork, or must contact me through the obit channel that my sisters also have access to. Do I contact him, asking him why he feels he needs to 'apologize' for the way he treated me in high school. Or do I contact him, and string him along for you'alls amusement.
I think you should at least drop him a line to say hello.
Well, curioser and curioser. I just got an email from him, although I thought I did not give him my email address. However, he does work for a company that I do business with (credit card), so I guess he could have obtained it, but I imagine it is against company policy to look up clients for personal reasons.
How well did this guy know your father?
<font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Not at all, except for when he came to pick me up or to parties at my house. From his email to me today:Originally posted by The Big Sexy:
How well did this guy know your father?<font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">I forwarded the email to you. I would be interested in your views on it.I vaguely knew he was a teacher, but never realized how busy he was....
Careful Dulc...
Unless you're absolutely comfortable with this guy, I'd shy away.
Of course I would dearly love to have you string him along as that would be tremendously entertaining. [img]smile.gif[/img]
You can always tell him you have a friend who's a cop and he has a taser!
I'm forced to agree with my esteemed colleague Jumper.....while there are risks for you per se, the entertainment value for us far outweighs those risks and, therefore, I say go ahead.
It was kinda funny, in a way, but I think back to my old ways....honestly, that's not too far from the kind of things I used to do. I'm not saying I ever hit on anyone at a funeral, but I can understand that mentality. I guess this is my roundabout way of saying there are probably a few chicks along the way who could have made a similar post, along the lines of "there was this guy Lew who one time....." blah blah blah.
Notice I said SOME chicks. There are still many others who crossed me and, well, the streets flowed with the blood of the non-believers....
I'm forced to agree with my esteemed colleague Jumper.....while there are risks for you per se, the entertainment value for us far outweighs those risks and, therefore, I say go ahead.
It was kinda funny, in a way, but I think back to my old ways....honestly, that's not too far from the kind of things I used to do. I'm not saying I ever hit on anyone at a funeral, but I can understand that mentality. I guess this is my roundabout way of saying there are probably a few chicks along the way who could have made a similar post, along the lines of "there was this guy Lew who one time....." blah blah blah.
Notice I said SOME chicks. There are still many others who crossed me and, well, the streets flowed with the blood of the non-believers....
Belated condolences Dulce. I'm sure he is in a better place.
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